4 Reasons you should be Cool

God wants you to be cool, accepted, and favored.  The Scripture says, "Let not mercy and truth forsake you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart and so find favor and high esteem in the sight of God and man" (Prov. 3:3,4 NKJV).  You can enjoy favor, acceptance, and popularity with both God and people.  Here are 4 reasons why you should be cool.

1.  Cool, accepted people have the ability to influence others for good.  That includes a witness of you Christian faith.

2.  Cool, favored have confidence to do things others believe to be impossible or improbable.

3.  Accepted people find it easy and natural to show others God's love and acceptance.

4.  Cool people stand up for truth and don't need everyone to agree with them or even like them.

5 Ways to know you aren't Cool

Maybe your reading these sentences right now and you're still not sure: Am I cool?  So we as the people of the world want to help you with some importance identification marks of people who will not gain favor with others. Here are 5 ways to know you aren't cool.

1.  If you constantly live in self-pity, looking to get attention, you are not cool.

2.  If you try to impress people with your money, possessions, or accomplishments, you are not cool.

3.  If you are sharp-tongued, gossipy, and critical of others, you are not cool.

4.  If you only treat people you like and know with love and respect, you are not cool.

5.  If you spend the majority of the time thinking about yourself, having little regard for Christ and others, you are not cool.

4 Things that are Definitely Not Cool

Have you ever had someone at school try to impress you in some way?  They were thinking,  Wow!  Am I ever cool!  And you were thinking,  When is this person going to get a clue?  Once again, cool people don't have to work to impress you.  Here are 4 things that are definitely not cool.

1.  You are not cool when you talk about yourself most of the time.  The Bible says, "Let another man praise you, and not your own mouth" (Prov. 27:2 NKJV).

2.  You are not cool because of how you walk or what you wear.  You are accepted and favored because of the good person you are, not the perception you try to create.

3.  It is definitely not cool to like a life of sin and personal pleasure.  The Word of God warns us, "The way of transgressors is hard" (Prov. 13:15).

4.  It is not cool to make others feel small by putting them down with your words.  Remember the law of snowing and reaping-if you sow encouragement, you'll reap it back.

Are you Cool or Not?? 3 Reasons Why Cool Doesn't Try

Truly cool people don't have to work at it-they just are. Let's be honest: if you have to try to be cool, you probably won't have a lot of people looking up to you. Let's check out 3 reasons why cool doesn't have to try.

1. Being cool is an honor that only others can bestow upon you. Remeber, the Bible's counter parts for the modern word cool and favored and accepted. Only God and people can show you favor and acceptance.

2. Truly cool people focus on others, not themselves. Matthew 23:12 says that those who humble themselves will be exalted.

3. Most cool people don't even realize they are cool. They're too busy making a difference in their world.

Bully

Bullying is an extremely serious problem in schools and can result in the victims becoming depressed and suicidal, and even taking their own lives.

Bullying occurs for many reasons.

Bullies might:

• Feel the need to hurt others because it makes them feel powerful.
• Want to get as much attention as possible.
• Feel that they can bully because nobody will stop them.
• Feel the need to control others.
• Believe they are justified in their bullying because others have hurt them.
• Be so unhappy that they want to bring others down to their level.
• Have no conscience at all and feel no remorse for what they do.
  (Most criminals do not feel remorse.)
• Think that it is "cool" to be a bully.

Keep in mind that all bullies are cowards.

Who gets Bullied

Who gets bullied?

Victims of bullying may be anxious, insecure, and cautious and suffer from low self-esteem, rarely defending themselves or retaliating when confronted by students who bully them.  They may lack social skills and friends and thus are often already socially isolated.  Victims tend to be close to their parents and may have parents who can be described as overprotective.

Victims of bullies often fear school and consider it to be an unsafe and unhappy place.  Victims will often stay home 'sick' rather than go to school or travel on the school bus.

Victims experience real suffering that can interfere with their social and emotional development, as well as their school performance.  Some victims of bullying have attempted suicide rather than continue to endure such harassment and abuse.  Other victims have taken out their anger and frustration in violence.  Most of the young people who have caused school-related violent deaths have been victims of bullying.  Experts, pointing to such tragic events as Columbine, agree that bullying can lead to serious violence, including murder and suicide.

If you suspect your child may be the victim of bullying ask him or her to tell you what's going on.  It's important to respond in a positive and accepting manner.  Let your child know it's not his or her fault, and that he or she did the right thing by telling you.  Ask your child what he or she thinks should be done.  What's already been tried?  What worked and what didn't?  Help your child practice what to say to the bully so he or she will be prepared the next time.

Other specific suggestions include the following:

• Know the school policies that protect students from harassment, bullying, and physical violence.  All students have the right to a safe and secure learning environment.  Get copies of these policies and procedures.
• Seek help from your child's teacher, the school guidance counselor, and school administrators -- and hold them accountable for following school policy.  Most bullying occurs on playgrounds, in lunchrooms, and bathrooms, on school buses or in unsupervised halls.  Ask the school administrators to find out about programs other schools and communities have used to help combat bullying, such as peer mediation, conflict resolution, anger management training, and increased adult supervision.
• Notify the police if your child is assaulted.  Get a restraining order so that the bully is required by law to have no contact with your child.
• If school officials and the police do not follow policy or laws,take legal action.

If your child becomes withdrawn, depressed, reluctant to go to school, or if you see a decline in school performance, additional consultation or intervention may be required.

A mental health professional can help your child and family and the school develop a strategy to deal with the bullying.  Seeking professional assistance earlier can lessen the risk of lasting emotional consequences for your child.

Bystanders

Bystanders also play a role in bullying:

• the assistant who joins the bully
• the re-enforcer who encourages the bully by observing and laughing
• outsiders who avoid the bullying by staying away and not getting involved for fear of losing social status or being bullied as well

If you suspect your child is bullying others, it's important to seek help for him or her as soon as possible.  Without intervention, bullying can lead to serious academic, social, emotional and legal difficulties. Talk to your child's pediatrician, teacher, principal, school counselor, or family physician.  If the bullying continues, a comprehensive evaluation by a mental health professional should be arranged.  The evaluation can help you and your child understand what is causing the bullying, and help you develop a plan to stop the destructive behavior.